Hey, its Osato again, I'm really grateful for the amazing feedback I got, thank you guys so much and am apologizing for taking so long to post again, for that I'm posting two articles todayJ.
So, first I'm going to be telling you about romantic movies/novels, NO I'm not going to say you should not watch/read them o, calm down. I, for one love romantic stuff, in fact, if my life were a movie and i could pick a genre I’d like it to be in I’d pick romantic comedy but I'm going to try to convince you not to watch it so much that it becomes all you can think of.
So personally, I just watched an episode of HIMYM (How I met your mother) *spoiler alert* where Barney (for those who don’t watch, Barney is supposed to be a player, he has a play book and everything) finally proposes to Robin and I cried *embarrassed*:’) but as I watched I tried my best not to let it sink into my heart so much that’ll be all I think about because these things have a way of changing our mindset and making us crave these experiences, I mean, these things can happen in real life o, there are some really romantic and creative people out there but if you have your mind fixed on the things that happen in the movies and expect them all to happen in your relationship, you’ll be putting too much pressure on your partner and you’ll be unrealistic.
Now don’t get me wrong, I know God isn't against the godly kind of romance because in the Bible there are quite a number of “cute” couples like Eve and Adam (which I think is an example of love at first sight because if you read GENESIS 2:22-23 you’ll see that all God had to do was show Eve to Adam and he knew instantly she was the one he wanted; I'm not telling you to go and start dating someone you just met o, I'm only giving an example), Rebekah and Isaac, Ruth and Boaz and even God and us(His children). So we know God isn't against romance (godly kind) but the devil is against any good thing and he has a way of turning these good things into not so good things. The devil can use this good thing against you by making you obsess about it and then it’ll mess with your mindset and make you go around trying to get it at all cost without caring who you get it with, probably get your heart broken and I really don’t want you to experience that. The effects of watching/reading romantic movies/novels are:
1) You start craving things that shouldn't matter: a friend of mine read a romantic novel where the guy was extremely rich and always got his wife really expensive stuff, when she finished, she told me she can’t marry someone who isn't extremely rich. See how the book messed with her mind? Its good not to want to marry someone that’s poor and doesn't look like they have potential but it doesn't mean that the person MUST be a billionaire before you consider him. Another friend of mine watched a movie with one of the most romantic proposal scenes ever and she said if her boyfriend doesn't propose to her like that the he isn't ready, now she’ll be expecting him to do something extravagant and if he ‘just’ takes her out to dinner to propose she’ll be unnecessarily disappointed. You get my point?
2) You’ll probably hurt yourself: imagine a girl that has never been in a relationship before, but she has been watching romantic movies her whole life, when she finally gets into her first relationship, don’t you think she’ll be expecting a fairytale? Of course she will.
So now you know some effects, you’ll probably be thinking “so what should I do to avoid them?” I don’t have definite things you should do but I’ll tell you what I do. When I finish watching something romantic I say “such an awesome movie” so that my mind registers that it was a movie not real life and I try my best not to watch them consecutively.
In conclusion, I’d like you to know that I do believe in “happy endings” and having an amazing relationship that’ll bring a smile to your face whenever you think of it, even though things have happened to me to try to make me think otherwise because I know God is romantic and creative and He has a sense of humor(David even says so) and I know He’ll bring that young man that’ll be the main character in my love story but before then, I've chosen to build my relationship with God and let him occupy that no.1 spot in my heart that is rightfully His and I think you should too. One quote that has really gotten stuck in my heart is one that says “a girl’s heart should be so lost in God that a man has to go to him to find it”, which I see as: if God owns my heart and has the right to give it to whom he deems fit, I'm so sure that the man that gets it will be too awesome because God loves me enough to give me the best J…..
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